Relationships and cheating do not go well together. However, many long-lasting couples will admit that they have, at least once in their relationship, wondered if their partner has cheated on them. Some find that their suspicions were valid, and others may never know one way or the other. But there are some pretty sure signs that you need to have a talk with your partner.
This is one that most people don’t talk about, but the friends that you and your partner have in common may be able to tell you a lot about what’s going on. Have your friends been acting differently towards you, or do they seem to get nervous or embarrassed when you speak about your partner? Unfortunately, often friends will find out even before you do. But remember that your friends might be acting strangely for other reasons as well, that have nothing at all to do with your and your partner.
Has your partner accused you of having an affair? If so, believe it or not, this actually may mean that he or she is having one. When someone feels guilty about something, they can actually project this situation on to someone else. In addition, someone who is constantly accusing someone else of having an affair often is proving that he or she does not think it’s possible to remain faithful, simply because he or she isn’t.
Another possible sign your partner is mixing relationships and cheating is if he or she is spending more and more time on the computer, especially when you are not around. This is the start of many affairs, even if it appears to be rather innocent at first. Along the same lines, if he or she seems to suddenly be taking a lot of calls in private, he or she may be involved in some sort of affair. But, this could also be someone who is planning a surprise party for you, or keeping some sort of pleasant secret.
Has your partner started dressing better when he or she leaves the house, but looks like a slob at home? This is actually a very telltale sign and should not be taken lightly. Try asking your partner if you can both dress up and go out and see what he or she says. The reaction can tell you a lot about the meaning of his or her dressing for others and not you.
Another possible hint is if your partner seems to be almost purposefully argumentative or controversial. He or she may be trying to get you to leave him or her, so that he can spend time with another person. However, it could also just mean that he or she is tired and stressed out from work or other obligations.
Both relationships and cheating take different forms for different people. While being observant never hurt anyone, don’t take your suspicions too far, and if you flat out ask your partner what’s going on, try to accept whatever answer he or she gives you as the truth.